How do you define success in your relationships, in your career, at your job, with your fitness, with your health and enjoying an overall sense of well-being?
The way I see it, it does not really matter how you define success.
You see, success in any area of your life is managed by your subconscious feedback loop.
Your subconscious feedback loop is basically the “system” that governs your thoughts, ideas, feelings, actions and expectations of yourself and others.
It’s like a software program that’s always running in the background and influencing your every action – the only difference is that this software can be reprogrammed by your environment and others to make you do things without even realizing it.
Now this may sound a bit out there, and before you think that this is some crazy theory, you should know that this stuff is all backed by science.
Here’s the deal. Your subconscious feedback loop is very powerful because it works on the mind at a deeper level, a level that you are not even aware of.
A recent article published in the New York Times explains how easy it’s to alter a person’s perception or judgement.
Here’s a small part of the article…
In a recent experiment, psychologists at Yale altered people’s judgements of a stranger by handing them a cup of coffee.
The study participants, college students, had no idea that their social instincts were being deliberately manipulated.
On the way to the laboratory, they had bumped into a laboratory assistant, who was holding textbooks, a clipboard, papers and a cup of hot or iced coffee – and asked for a hand with the cup.
That was all it took: The students who held a cup of iced coffee rated a hypothetical person they alter read about as being much colder, less social and more selfish than did their fellow students, who had momentarily held a cup of hot java.
Here’s what all this has to do with you and your personal success in fitness and weight loss and anything you want to achieve:
A mentor and coach of mine named Frank Kern recently made a video on the internet where he explains how outside factors influence your thoughts, decisions, actions and ultimately your ability or desire to attain your goals (this can be any goal such as weight loss or other important goals in your life such as making more money, etc…)
It goes like this; your success in anything is influenced by two major factors;
1. The thoughts that occupy your mind
2. The people you associate with
Back in 2013, Frank told me about a trip he and his family took to Alaska where they did the whole glacier thing.
It was very cool to hear his story. One of the ports that the ship stopped at was a town where they did a lot of fishing for crabs.
“As we were walking along the water checking out the scenery, I saw a man who was fishing off the rocks for crabs and he had a five-gallon bucket next to him and inside of it were a bunch of crabs, each about the size of your hand.
As we stood there watching the fisherman do his thing, I noticed that one ambitious crab was climbing on top of the other ones and was getting ready to reach up for the rim of the bucket and boost himself up to freedom.
This little sucker was going to make a run for it!
Just as the little crab stated reaching for the rim of the bucket, all the other crabs in the bucket reached up, grabbed him by the legs and pulled him right down.
I WAS BLOWN AWAY BY WHAT I JUST SAW!
The crab fisherman explained to me that crabs do that instinctively and so he never needs to put a lid on the bucket.”
I then realized that we all have crabs in our lives. Some are family members, others friends and co-workers. But we all have crabs (I know that didn’t sound right… lol)”
After I heard Frank tell me his crab fisherman story, I decided on the spot to cut out all the crabs in my life. And I did.
It was a pretty easy decision for me.
I knew what I wanted in life (to work for myself, to have more freedom, financial independence) and to never have to answer to anyone or live by someone else’s values).
Today, I only hang around other success minded, open minded, free thinkers and financially well off people who encourage me, motivate me and share their secrets.
Next is #2, the thoughts that occupy your mind…
These are the things that influence your feedback loop because they control, alter and manage your subconscious mind…
….and your subconscious mind controls your conscious mind, which is what makes you do the things you do, minute by minute.
It goes like this:
Say you want to lose 30 pounds and look amazing in a bikini. For you to LOSE weight you have to DO something (exercise and diet).
In order for you to exercise and diet you need to take an ACTION to go to the gym and buy healthy foods that help you burn fat.
For you to take this action you need to make a DECISION to do something.
But your decisions are controlled by your THOUGHTS and your thoughts are formed by the INPUT that goes into your conscious and subconscious mind.
Lose 30 Pounds >> Diet & Exercise >> Action >> Decision >> Thoughts >> Input
Your input is what you get from the things you watch, listen to, read and the people who you surround yourself with.
The example Frank gave in his video was this. If you watch the news, then all you hear about is DANGER.
And if you listen to gossip the you believe that PEOPLE ARE BAD, and when you read the papers all you see is UNEMPLOYMENT, BAD ECONOMY and SCARCITY.
I don’t know about you, but as an entrepreneur, if the thoughts that are floating around in my mind are danger, people are bad, the economy, unemployment and scarcity, then the actions I take are not going to result in me accomplishing or creating anything significant that positively impacts peoples lives.
This may all seem a bit crazy and you may even think that I’ve bumped my head, but this is how my mind works.
And believe it or not, this is how YOUR mind works as well.
So how do you benefit from this information?
First, you need to relentlessly manage the INPUT that’s coming into your mind because your “subconscious feedback loop” is always running in the background and influencing your thoughts, decisions, actions and ultimately your success and happiness.
To give you an example I stopped watching TV (especially the news) years ago, because mostly all you hear on the news is bad stuff happening, from unemployment to kidnappings, to house fires to murders and on and on.
Second, eliminate the crabs in your life.
It may not be easy to eliminate people in your life who are around you the most (friends, family, etc…) but take my word for it; you’ll be AMAZED by what you can accomplish when you get rid of folks who are negative and do nothing but drag you down.
If you can not get rid of the crabs in your life completely, at the very least significantly reduce the amount of time you spend with them.